Dealing with Loss

Dealing with Loss…..

One of the hardest things to deal with in this life is loss. Partially because we don't understand why it happened, especially when you loose someone seemingly before time. Why does this happen, what do you say to one who has lost someone. Through out this blog thus far I have tried to root everything I have written in the teachings of the God's word. However, from my reading and study thus far (no I haven't read the whole bible cover to cover) I haven't found much on dealing with a lost one (whether it be from death or break up or whatever).
I was asked to do an entry on loss by a good friend of mine who has just gone through a very tragic loss. Since that time as I was pondering what I was going to write a few other friends of mine had suffered some loss each in different ways. Breakups, death, and loss of friendships have been plaguing those around me. Different ones asking what do I do, why did it happen, how do I get past it? The only answer I know to give is simply this, trust God and go through. I wish I knew why it was that loss happens and why it is that God allows things to be that don't make sense to us and seem to have a severe negative impact on us. The reality is I don't know why nor do I attempt to try to explain it away, but what I do is simply Trust God. It sounds cliché but it is more true than I can put into this entry. Not only should you trust Him but feel the way you feel.
Some people will tell you that you shouldn't be angry with God when He makes a decision, some will tell you after sometime that you should be over it. Don't let people dictate to you how you are supposed to be feeling. Don't allow people who aren't and haven't gone through what you are to tell you it's been too long so get over it. Feel how you feel. Now I will say don't dwell there but the bible teaches us that weeping endures for a night. Everyone always tries to rush to the end part of that scripture that tells you that joy comes in the morning but before you can get to that morning joy you must go through your weeping nights. Don't suppress it. Go through it. When you feel like crying go ahead and cry. When you feel like screaming go ahead and scream. Your tears, your mourning over the relationship lost will help you get to your morning of joy. Some things truth be told you will never get over but by going through the process and Trusting God you will get better. "Well I’m angry at God, He did this to me"! That is one of many common statements I hear. I say go ahead and be angry with God but just like you are supposed to do with people (if anyone has an ought with his brother go to him) we ought to do with God and tell Him and don't hold back. Fire out all the reasons why you think it's unfair, or unjust, or whatever you are feeling trust me He can take it. Just know that when you do, give Him the chance to talk to you and help you through what you are feeling.
Trust God and feel how you feel and know that He is still able to bring you out. I hope and pray that this entry has been of some help and possibly some comfort to those going through loss of any type. Know that you are not alone, others are going through as you are. Don't isolate yourself get around people from time to time it also helps with the healing process. Remember as always Grow in God's Grace and Abide in His Love!