Dealing with Loss

Dealing with Loss…..

One of the hardest things to deal with in this life is loss. Partially because we don't understand why it happened, especially when you loose someone seemingly before time. Why does this happen, what do you say to one who has lost someone. Through out this blog thus far I have tried to root everything I have written in the teachings of the God's word. However, from my reading and study thus far (no I haven't read the whole bible cover to cover) I haven't found much on dealing with a lost one (whether it be from death or break up or whatever).
I was asked to do an entry on loss by a good friend of mine who has just gone through a very tragic loss. Since that time as I was pondering what I was going to write a few other friends of mine had suffered some loss each in different ways. Breakups, death, and loss of friendships have been plaguing those around me. Different ones asking what do I do, why did it happen, how do I get past it? The only answer I know to give is simply this, trust God and go through. I wish I knew why it was that loss happens and why it is that God allows things to be that don't make sense to us and seem to have a severe negative impact on us. The reality is I don't know why nor do I attempt to try to explain it away, but what I do is simply Trust God. It sounds cliché but it is more true than I can put into this entry. Not only should you trust Him but feel the way you feel.
Some people will tell you that you shouldn't be angry with God when He makes a decision, some will tell you after sometime that you should be over it. Don't let people dictate to you how you are supposed to be feeling. Don't allow people who aren't and haven't gone through what you are to tell you it's been too long so get over it. Feel how you feel. Now I will say don't dwell there but the bible teaches us that weeping endures for a night. Everyone always tries to rush to the end part of that scripture that tells you that joy comes in the morning but before you can get to that morning joy you must go through your weeping nights. Don't suppress it. Go through it. When you feel like crying go ahead and cry. When you feel like screaming go ahead and scream. Your tears, your mourning over the relationship lost will help you get to your morning of joy. Some things truth be told you will never get over but by going through the process and Trusting God you will get better. "Well I’m angry at God, He did this to me"! That is one of many common statements I hear. I say go ahead and be angry with God but just like you are supposed to do with people (if anyone has an ought with his brother go to him) we ought to do with God and tell Him and don't hold back. Fire out all the reasons why you think it's unfair, or unjust, or whatever you are feeling trust me He can take it. Just know that when you do, give Him the chance to talk to you and help you through what you are feeling.
Trust God and feel how you feel and know that He is still able to bring you out. I hope and pray that this entry has been of some help and possibly some comfort to those going through loss of any type. Know that you are not alone, others are going through as you are. Don't isolate yourself get around people from time to time it also helps with the healing process. Remember as always Grow in God's Grace and Abide in His Love!

Changing the future by leaving the past behind

You're Pre-existing Conditions no longer matter. Be free from your restrictions.

Be an agent of change

 

No matter what you have done in your past, no matter who you were or people may try to hold you to be because of what they knew of you. That no longer matters. What matters is who you are now and what you are trying to do now. Change happens one step at a time, doing one thing differently at a time. They say the definition of insanity and being a fool is to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. If you want something different you have to do something different. So what people around you don't think it can be done or don't believe in your vision for your life as long as you believe in that vision and pursue it with a purpose and a passion. Free yourself from the restrictions and limitations of people's mindsets or even your own if that's what it takes. One of my current favorite songs is a song called No Limits by Israel and New Breed. The song outlines the need for taking the limits off. You can only go as far as the leash (limitation) you put on yourself or allow to be put on you but if you don't have a leash (limitation) the sky is the limit. You're not too late, or too old, or too big, or too small, or whatever the limitation you put on yourself. You haven't done so much wrong, you're credit score isn't too low, you aren't too uneducated because your past does not matter. Your past is a pre-existing condition and unlike health care it's been covered. (I feel like preaching right there lol). Stop looking at why you can't and start looking at why you can. The reality is you are your own worst enemy.....stop being so.....become your greatest asset. Take the Limits Off stop making excuses. Be like Nike and just do it. Doing so will cause you to become and agent of change, it will effect and infect your atmosphere and everyone around it (some may leave but that will turn out to be a good thing). Change means a complete transformation from one thing to another thing totally different from the thing it changed from. But change doesn't come easy it is often met with great opposition. Be strong enough to stand that storm, be great enough to (again) pursue purpose regardless of your history. Make your future greater than your past. You're Pre-existing Conditions no longer matter, be free from your restrictions, and be an agent of change. Thanks for listening (or in this case reading lol) and as always Grow in God's Grace and Abide in His Love.